Are you a self-help junkie? You just might be.
The new operating system on my iPhone records my screen time and keeps a running tally of the time I spend (and some times waste) looking into that little screen. I do blog for Blossom Water and keep their Facebook and Instagram pages alive and kickin’. So some of my time reading online self-help is for my work; some of it is for me.
Like many women (and men) of a certain age, I fall prey to Oprah and Deepak Chopra – just hearing his voice makes me feel more calm. I worship Brene Brown and Eckhart Tolle. Like my peers, I want to learn how to live in the moment, how to be my authentic self, how to be more vulnerable, compassionate, fit, driven, free, fearless, supportive, loving, motivated, woke, happy, creative, organized, spontaneous, sexy, minimal, financially stable…I want to help myself become more…what? More me?!
Maybe my quest for near-perfection, or at least adequacy, or at the very least something a little better, has gone too far? Maybe I’m a self-help junkie? Uh oh. Of course I had to consult Dr. Google to find out for sure. Here is the diagnosis: Five Indications you are a Self-Help Junkie:
1. Do you regularly read self-help posts and articles without ever following through on the advice dispensed therein? You might be a self-help junkie.
2. Do you talk about self-help without acting on it? You might be a self-help junkie.
3. Do you read self-hep columns just for the sake of reading? You might be a self-help junkie. Get a book. Fiction can be an inspiring release from your everyday. Join a book club. Check out GoodReads.com and get book recommendations from friends and like-minded strangers. Note to self: reading for reading’s sake is never a bad thing. If you are paying attention, every thing is grist for the mill.
4. Do you use self-help as a way to avoid doing the real important things in your life? Reading self-help might feel like it is taking some kind of action, but it is not. If there are conflicts in your life that you are avoiding, get some help with them (from someone other than yourself).
5. You bookmark and tag articles entitled “10 Ways to XYZ” and “59 Lifehacks that will make you a better PDQ”? While it is nice to squirrel things away for a rainy day, it is nicer to do something to improve your life right now, in the present moment.
Merriam-Webster gives us two definitions of the word junkie:
a : a narcotics peddler or addict
b : a person who gets an unusual amount of pleasure from or has an unusual amount of interest in something
As I read definition B, it occurs to me that being a self-help junkie is not entirely bad. Or maybe not even bad at all. Taking pleasure and interest in improving yourself does not seem a bad thing after all. Let’s be self-help junkies together! All the self-help articles say that we accomplish more, are happier, more organized, more accountable, more proactive when we do things togethe
Hey, those self-help people might be on to something!